Saturday, September 7, 2013

Why Is Getting Dressed So Hard?

Amazingly enough, that's a serious question. I swore I wouldn't be that mom who goes around in workout clothes who just looks like a stay at home mom. But especially since Laurie was born, I find myself more and more still in my pajamas at lunch, and when I do get dressed it's more often than not  barely much better. Thursday I got a shower and dressed while Isabelle was having quiet time. Which means after lunch, and then I put on a t-shirt and a pair of skirted leggings. That's what my husband who is deploying within the next few weeks came home to. I ran to the grocery store for some, laundry detergent after he got home, and I had to change clothes because I wasn't dressed in a fashion that I was comfortable leaving the house.

I think that part of it is that two kids really is twice as much work. There's all the responsibilities of taking care of a newborn and (unfortunately) recovering from major surgery, but I still have to take care of a toddler. As Laurie gets older I'm sure I'll get used to taking care of both of them, but as it stands I'm letting myself go. It also doesn't help that we're now a one car family. There are plenty of pros,but the con is most of the time I don't go anywhere. Our townhouse is in a mixed use suburban neighborhood, and most of the things within walking distance are doctors offices. There aren't any parks, and the only store is a gas station. We're basically stuck. If I can make plans ahead, we can take James to work, but if it's not super important if he's needs the car he gets it. It frustrates me, but meeting friends at the splash pad isn't more important than work. And with two car seats now getting a ride is more difficult than with just one. But without anywhere to go, getting dressed seems pointless. And I don't really want to keep wearing maternity clothes since anything with a panel makes me look still pregnant and they're getting almost too big to stay up regardless, but most anything with buttons is still uncomfortable. Which are all just excuses for being lazy since I manage to get up and get dressed on Sundays for church. We had family come down for the baby's baptism a few weeks ago, and when my grandparents came by the house on their way put of town, I was up and dressed. I had my six week checkup two weeks ago, and I was up and dressed with both girls dressed as well since we had to take James to work as well as drop Isabelle off at a friends since toddlers and OB/GYNs just don't mix. So it's not that I'm incapable, it's just that most days I'm not making any effort.

So in comes Frumps to Pumps. I've had this book on my Kindle for awhile, and when Caroline over at the Modest Mom Blog suggested doing a frumps to pumps challenge I decided to give it a whirl. I may not seriously buckle down until October since we're getting ready to move home while James is deployed in a few weeks, but I'm going to try and do better. My girls need a better example. Heck, I even managed to get dressed by 9:30 this morning, and I'm wearing a nursing dress and not comfy pants.

1 comment:

  1. It's amazing how hard it is to be motivated to dress decently when you're not leaving the house. But it really does make you feel better about yourself and the day ahead, whatever it brings (or doesn't bring!) Good luck with the challenge, Bazile, will be thinking of you as your husband deploys. x

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